I'm 13, help......

i turned 13 a while ago. at school the girls dont talk to me and they are all really fit (mostly). plus my friends are being really annoying but they're still my friends. Also we broke up today and I got 6 weeks of boredom ahead because I got no money. I get 15 pounds a month so during the holidays i would have got 30 pounds nearly and thats it. I'm to young to get a job:frown: :mad: so I got to wait for ages. Plus some kids are bullying me at school because my dads a vicar and I really want to smack there f**kin heads in. And also I am a bit fat, which is another reason and my biggest prob coz there is a particular girl i like PLEASE F**KING HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!:frown: :frown: :mad: :mad: :frown: :frown: :mad: :mad:

lotsa half-finished ideas, but hey bud don't worry everybody has good weeks and bad weeks. everything will work out.

if all else fails u can start using drugs!!!!!!

instead of using drus (like the :screwy: before me said) try to get some hobbies... be good in something, like car history, guns history or whatever you want. Pleople in those ages who "act" like ases are usually the dumbest humans in the world. If you show them how stupid they're, they will respect you and even admire you (somethings they even hate you, so be prepared to run ja ja, just kiddin')

Always stay alert, and don't try drugs. Better close your eyes, its the same effect of the drugs (you don't see what's around you), are cheaper and without side effects.

Come on!!!!!!!, you have access to a computer, food in your table, a nice place to sleep and your father have a car and a job.... dawn you are lucky man.

Give time to the time,
and always make the difference between the "good" and the "bad"



:bananasmi


(dawn, i look like my father... guezz im gettin old)

i guess you could try what that jackoff said.. OR DO DRUGS!!!!!

well i like cars and thats it (how fu**ing sad!!!!) dunno what i could like that would make people like me lots???

sp3cial bl3nd, why is drugs the answer for you? it aint for me, your crazy, dont talk to me:thefinger

If you dont feel good about yourself cause of your weight you should change that. That is something you can control. Dont do it for ya friends or this girl, do it cause you want to. People who are confident and proud of themselves attrtactive to oter people fat or not.

By the way the American wants to know what a vicar is?

Originally posted by sp3cial_bl3nd
i guess you could try what that jackoff said.. OR DO DRUGS!!!!!

Please tell me you're joking and not telling a 13 year old to do drugs. If you are then cool, but if you're being serious, maybe that's something you should keep to yourself.

since its the holidayz now, i got a whole lot of time.
excersise?:frown:
but i'll do it coz i want to
thanks :wink:

WELL I AINT DOIN DRUGS, EVEN IF THINGS GOT BAD!

why not? he's gonna try em eventually anyways.. y not get an ealry start? you know get really good at something...

SHUT THE F**K UP sp3cial bl3nd please, or you might start giving me ideas

too late.... :bigthumb:

Don't talk to me sp3cial bl3nd

Originally posted by sp3cial_bl3nd
why not? he's gonna try em eventually anyways.. y not get an ealry start? you know get really good at something...


Dude, knock it off. Grow up a little, he doesn't need drugs to be happy, so leave him alone.

Originally posted by agh2SHUT THE F**K UP sp3cial bl3nd please, or you might start giving me ideas

Dont worry about him, he just needs to be a little more mature and stop advocating drugs. He may think it's cool, but that doesnt mean everyone else does, and the sooner he realizes this the better off he'll be.

i'm just fuckin around... haha get a clue

yer sp3cial bl3nd knock it off, you're 22? and i'm 13, and i think you should grow up a little too

haha....:owned: :loser:

Originally posted by sp3cial_bl3nd
i'm just fuckin around... haha get a clue

He asked you to stop earlier. When he asks you to stop, you stop. I understand it's just f**kin around, but things such as that arent funny to some people.

yeah

:gives:

i must not be one of those people but i'll stop cause i'm gettin the bugger all riled up.. friends little guy?:wave:

not friends but i know who you are now :tongue:

oh do ya now? haha

Yes, he's 'special'.

Can we maybe get back on the topic of this thread ?

Originally posted by agh2
i turned 13 a while ago. at school the girls dont talk to me and they are all really fit (mostly). plus my friends are being really annoying but they're still my friends. Also we broke up today and I got 6 weeks of boredom ahead because I got no money. I get 15 pounds a month so during the holidays i would have got 30 pounds nearly and thats it. I'm to young to get a job:frown: :mad: so I got to wait for ages. Plus some kids are bullying me at school because my dads a vicar and I really want to smack there f**kin heads in. And also I am a bit fat, which is another reason and my biggest prob coz there is a particular girl i like PLEASE F**KING HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!:frown: :frown: :mad: :mad: :frown: :frown: :mad: :mad:

Dont worry about the girls right now, a bit too young to worry about it anyways. Friends can always be annoying sometimes, but Im sure you yourself can annoy them too. About the money, be happy you're getting it, I didnt have ANY income until I was 16. The kids at school are just stupid insecure little punks with nothing better to do than pick on kids to make themselves feel better, you're proud of your father and that's what matters, they mean nothing. After you get out of school, you'll never have to see them again if you choose not to. So you're a bit fat huh? Ever thought of any sports? If you're ambitious enough and feel your weight is a problem, look into something that you feel might help you. And if the girl you like cant accept you for who you are, you dont need her.

Your part of a great community here, but don’t forget to involve your parents with problematic discussions. You appear to have a level head about you, so use it to focus on your talents. If you feel your lacking focus, try some martial arts training. You can learn self-discipline, self-confidence, and you will find your ability to focus on a problem much easier. Do some research in your area, or have your parents do it, but find a training facility that focuses on the mental aspect of martial arts and not the fighting. Don’t think of martial arts as learning to fight, think of it as sharpening your mind.
When you are mentally focused, everything else is easier.

You might also want to pick up a talent/hobby like playing guitar or something. It helps get your mind off the bad things. And besides, chicks dig guitar players!

Originally posted by ThePRobed
chicks dig guitar players!

Drummers too:biggrin:

join a martial arts place or take up weight lifting

I found joining my one particular martial arts place that i went to helped me more than anything else possibly could with confidence etc but it does require alot of Perseverance otherwise you'll quit like so many other that did. (this doesn't apply to most martial arts places some are out to just get your money so they teach pretty poor martial arts)
other than that

no one can help you you're on your own BUWAHAHAHAHA ahem :devil:

as NSX.... said, you're alone in your cruzade, so just be yourself. First of all, don't let her know how important she's to you, usually people doesn't know how to handle that. Second, avoid fights, try to be sarcastic but don't be a kamikaze, and Third, come 'on, your 13 yrs old!!!, have at least 60 years more (forget that, bad joke). You're growing kid, that's normal. Just try to remember that time never come back, so try to get as much as you can of your time and always be proud of yourself.

Ah, remeber,
your school isn't the only social group where you can be, in sports, hobbies, whatever, you can find another groups and there you can find girls too.

"Let the force be with you"

Originally posted by ILike2DriveCars


Dont worry about the girls right now, a bit too young to worry about it anyways. Friends can always be annoying sometimes, but Im sure you yourself can annoy them too. About the money, be happy you're getting it, I didnt have ANY income until I was 16. The kids at school are just stupid insecure little punks with nothing better to do than pick on kids to make themselves feel better, you're proud of your father and that's what matters, they mean nothing. After you get out of school, you'll never have to see them again if you choose not to. So you're a bit fat huh? Ever thought of any sports? If you're ambitious enough and feel your weight is a problem, look into something that you feel might help you. And if the girl you like cant accept you for who you are, you dont need her.

You cant tell the guy to "not woory about the girls" because I know as well as any guy knows, thats impossible. If he's got a chick on his mind, he should go for it. :biggrin:

Hmm

One thing I remember, is people at that age are really immature and shallow. Don't stress too much about the girls or whatever, it sounds like your school is a popularity contest. Fuck trying to be cool or whatever, just be yourself man. Don't be ashamed that your dad's a vicar (Americans - priest/reverend etc), be comfortable in that. If the guys keep trying to bully you, just stand up to them. They'll soon learn that you won't take shit.

Story time

When I was 13 there was this kid in my class who was about 15 (I kid you not, he started school real late). So he decided to pick on me and try bully me. We were playing hockey the one day, he kept threatening me, saying things like "i can walk all over you", I simply told him, "okay, I don't care". He started jabbing me with his hockey stick, I ripped it out of his hands and chucked it away down the field. He kept yelling at me to pick it up, I just stood there, said "nah". He even grabbed my shoulder and tried to throw me, yelling "PICK IT UP", getting VERY agitated, I still stood there, just said "Nope", til he gave up and walked off defeated.

He never messed with me again, neither did any of the other bullies in the school

/story

You don't have to smash their heads in (go ahead if it makes you feel better though ;)), but I'm pretty sure your dad won't approve. Talk to your parents about this as well. If the girl is only interested in guys that are cool or fit or popular or whatever (as most girls that age are), then she's not worth it.

If you want to lose weight, get exercise, take up some sports, whatever. Boxing is good :D Hobbies will help, since its summer there just hang our with your friends, go to the beach or whatever.

Just relax man, be yourself, it'll be sweet :D

Originally posted by joedirt76


You cant tell the guy to "not woory about the girls" because I know as well as any guy knows, thats impossible. If he's got a chick on his mind, he should go for it. :biggrin:

I know what you mean, but Im sure you also know what I mean. There will always be crushes and such, but worrying about a relationship at 13? come now, surely you can agree, there are better things at the time.

thanks:wink: :smile: :cool: :biggrin:

Originally posted by Toksin
Hmm

Don't be ashamed that your dad's a vicar (Americans - priest/reverend etc), be comfortable in that.

Thank you! It was bugging me not knowing!

Kid dont sweat it, it does get better.

agh2,

Firstly a big big congrats to you not sure if anyone else noticed but he is already a mature guy for 13, early in the thread that 'Special' person was advocating drugs, seriuosly or not, agh2 said no and didnt just say no but said it with confidence. Its amazing how many kids nowadays think its perfectly alright to do drugs and so few actually think its wrong to say no. You showed how mature you are and I can tell you now there is nothing a woman loves more but a mature guy, they find it very sexy.

As for the girls not to put you off but I lay a bet she isnt even interested in guys yet and probably wont be for a couple of years. So basically give yourself time. Dont be afraid to just be friends with the girls and get to know them more. Im going to make a confession here I was 18 before I had my first proper snog I had loads of female friends and was probably my own lack of confidence not trying it on more but I got more respect for it. Yeah it was as frustrating as hell but it worked out for the best. So dont be in such a rush, you are still a kid and I mean that in the nicest way, enjoy it, enjoy just hanging out with friends, going to the cinema and such. Even in a couple of years going off for the day with some friends, it might sound corny but going out on bike rides and that sort of thing.

As for the bullies, Story time #2, mine is very similiar to Toksin.

We all came back from xmas hols and a rumour started around school about me and it got me really depressed I felt like I was the laughing stock of the school. Anyway someone drew a picture of me to slag me off about the rumour and passed it around class and the teacher got a hold of it and started asking me questions about it and the whole class thought this was hilarious. So after class the guy who last had the pic I got a hold of him by the throat and literally threw him against the wall and told him if it didnt stop there was going to be trouble. I just snapped and I wasnt a big kid far from it I was tall and lanky but it was funny how my last couple of years of school were more enjoyable and no one ever hassled me.

Now just like Toksin I dont want to give you ideas of kicking someones head in but its a lesson that if you stand up to these people you will get more respect. Standing up to the bullies shows your maturity and what does that mean...oh yeah more women falling at ur feet :iceslolan . But do talk to your parents and dont keep things bottled up.

As for how you look again your still a kid its amazing how much you will change over the next few years. Try to take up a sport to keep yourself fit and get trim not only will you feel good about yourself but you'll have more energy for all those women who are falling at your feet :iceslolan. Like I said I was always a skinny lanky piece of shit as a kid but now I am starting to fill out and have only started in the last few years (im 25 now). We were at a cousins wedding last year and my mam actually called me fat :iceslolan not that I am it just came out wrong, the point is your body will change a lot over the next 10 years.

Anyway enough of my waffle, the bottom line is dont get to hung up on things at your age, enjoy being a kid, I know its a corny line but its true, Im going through some shit at the moment and I wish I was 13 again outside my mams house playing football with my friends.

Ciaran

fucking hell I know how it feels to be picked on at that age- as I was- I dealt with it the wrong way by fighting people and people just did it more- of course I grew up to be 6'5 and reasonably brawny- so people just sht up- but my suggestion is to ignore the assholes- these guys need to grow up and get a life- people who mess in everyone elses lives are people whos own lives are meaningless or shallow.

As for the girls- who gives a fuck about them- if they are going to judge you by whats on the outside then they are shallow skanks who aren't worth your time.

Originally posted by ILike2DriveCars


I know what you mean, but Im sure you also know what I mean. There will always be crushes and such, but worrying about a relationship at 13? come now, surely you can agree, there are better things at the time.


Yes, as a mature 20 yr old, I can understand both points of view. There are better things to woory about at the age of 13...such as tonka trucks.

Originally posted by ThePRobed
You might also want to pick up a talent/hobby like playing guitar or something. It helps get your mind off the bad things. And besides, chicks dig guitar players! :bigthumb: :bigthumb: GREAT IDEA!!!!! Ya you really are a tad bit youg to orry bout girls, your olny 13?? Going out with girls then is pointless. Good luck tho.

most of the boys in my school have girlfriends at the moment (believe it or not), my friend snogged someone for about 4 minutes. I feel like I'm missing out.

P.S. Nice Corvette on your sig

Don't worry 'bout girls, and remember this, don't spend very much on them. It's a complete waste. The more you spend the more they'll expect. Above All, be your self don't try and be "cool" it just leads you to trouble.

My stories:
#1 I've been friends with this girl for close to six years now, well last year we became very close. She was going to get married to this guy and he cheated so it was off anyway after one year and a different boyfriend she's back with him. In the meantime I've made it perfectly clear, that I wanna be with her. So, anyway the point is don't get all hooked up on one girl because it could be a disaster.

#2 When I was younger, I belive 7 grade so around your age, I felt exactly how you did. I tried to change who I was and be "cool." Where did it get me? Into deep depression and suicidal thoughts. In general it was a bad idea. It wasn't until I was 16-17 that I pulled myself out.

The most important thing is to have confidence in yourself, at 13 you really can do anything if you put your mind and work into it. If you want that girl talk to her, ask her to a movie or something with other people around. Have confidence in anything you say or do it is amazing how much it can do. Oh, and if your special girl says no deal with it like this. "Oh well she'll be sorry when she sees me in like 10 years, because I going places.":biggrin:

forget that little chic and get a look at Angie Jibaja, a 100% peruvian girl.
Dawn, i would kill for being her boyfriend....

Now, going back to the real world...

About your problem.
don't get mad and wait. Before getting a nice girl its better to mature yourself. Make some "female friends", talk with them, know them. The best way to win a war is to know your enemy's tactics....

and of course, to fall behind the enemy lines (if you understand me :bigthumb: )

About getting some kisses... that's easy you know,
i can take 20 bucks and get some really nice and hot girl like Angie for that money... but, to get someone who understand you, who plays with you, who talk to you, who hughes you when you feel alone and afraid... that's priceless... thats something one earns with dedication and patience.

Get sharp before getting agressive...
its easy to get kisses... everyone can make that in a party...

but,
to get someone to talk with... to feel that you're not alone...
that's hard man.

Good luck,
don't get mad,
and don't express your impotence at home, that's the worst thing you can make. Always keeps the problems at their original places....

like someone said...

don't take the job to home

:rolleyes: thanks?

you're welcome :biggrin:

Angie says "nice to be helpful"

and goodnights..

Originally posted by agh2
most of the boys in my school have girlfriends at the moment (believe it or not), my friend snogged someone for about 4 minutes. I feel like I'm missing out.

P.S. Nice Corvette on your sig


What everyone else does shouldn't matter- realationships are seriously overated- especially if you only have about 30 Pounds

you should get a punching bag and learn to hit. That way you lose weight, and can deliver some ass kickins along the way. Thats what i did. Last year some kid thought i stole his coke at lunch so he slapped me, and i punched him in the face about 20 times without getting hit again once. Ripped his shirt, punched a teacher trying to break it up, and i got a 10 day vacation from school. Talk about fun, not to mention i got respect out the wazoo.

drugs are bad mmmkay!?

Originally posted by sp3cial_bl3nd
drugs are bad mmmkay!?


Ya dude, he'll get teh munchies, after words and gain weight, lol.
agh2 get a ferrari, all the chicks will love you! lol

Originally posted by KamiKaze Accord
you should get a punching bag and learn to hit. That way you lose weight, and can deliver some ass kickins along the way. Thats what i did. Last year some kid thought i stole his coke at lunch so he slapped me, and i punched him in the face about 20 times without getting hit again once. Ripped his shirt, punched a teacher trying to break it up, and i got a 10 day vacation from school. Talk about fun, not to mention i got respect out the wazoo.


Anger Management anyone?

dude....i cant get a ferrari coz im 13

Originally posted by agh2
dude....i cant get a ferrari coz im 13


fine then a Mk 3 Cortina and start up a betting pool "How many times will it break down on the way to the corner store" That way people notice you and you get lots of dosh :bigthumb:

WAIT A MINUTE! Since anyone can drive a car on your own land, will 13 yr olds be able too drive a car on a race track if they ask the track owner? I could get noticed for driving a car??

yeah, just get a booster seat and some blocks for the brake and gas so u can reach...

I've driven our Renault Clio before in a huge car park and I have to move the seat back to reach the pedals, as you have probably guessed, im pretty tall or my parents are short? lol But I don't think the track marshals would help anyone without a driving license?:frown:

Forget about driving a car until you have a licence. You dont want to get yourself in trouble. Besides you need a job to maintain a vehicle.
Just go and have fun...your just a kid.:smile:

Originally posted by joedirt76

Just go and have fun...your just a kid.:smile:

DING DING DING!!! We have the answer!!!

enjoy your childhood dude, once you get a job, there are less things to do, then it comes to your job, school, and gf(should you have one). No time for yourself really.