What to do...
The_ScareCrow
07-20-2003, 09:02 PM
Ok, Im in a bit of a situation at the moment, and am trying to handle it the best way possible, but dont know whether what Im doing is the best thing.
here goes: My cousin and and his girlfriend have been dating for about a year now. I work with my cousin everyday, as we are both employed at the same institution. His girlfriend is like one of my best friends and she confides in me enough to talk to me whenever something is bothering her etcetera. Well, over the past 2 months, things with the two have been declining, relationship-wise. He hates how she never lets him be by himself, and she hates how he doesnt talk doesnt talk to her enough (each person said this to me about the other person). My cousin feels that ending the relationship would be best and has actually tried on more than one occasion, but because his girlfriend is so dependant on him, and the fact that he is probably the best boyfriend she's ever dated, she refuses to break up ( didnt know that was even possible). The reason he is probably the best boyfriend she has ever had is because her ex was somewhat abusive, as was her ex-ex, who beat her because she accidentally scratched his car (nicked the bottom of the door). My problem here is that both of them will talk to me about the other, yet neither of them will talk to each other about it because neither of them wants to hear what the other thinks is wrong (at least that's what Ive gathered from the discussions Ive had) Yet, whenever I tell either one that he/she needs to discuss this with his/her opposite, they always say that the other never listens. Is there anything I can tell either of them that might help this situation? Any and all help is welcome.
here goes: My cousin and and his girlfriend have been dating for about a year now. I work with my cousin everyday, as we are both employed at the same institution. His girlfriend is like one of my best friends and she confides in me enough to talk to me whenever something is bothering her etcetera. Well, over the past 2 months, things with the two have been declining, relationship-wise. He hates how she never lets him be by himself, and she hates how he doesnt talk doesnt talk to her enough (each person said this to me about the other person). My cousin feels that ending the relationship would be best and has actually tried on more than one occasion, but because his girlfriend is so dependant on him, and the fact that he is probably the best boyfriend she's ever dated, she refuses to break up ( didnt know that was even possible). The reason he is probably the best boyfriend she has ever had is because her ex was somewhat abusive, as was her ex-ex, who beat her because she accidentally scratched his car (nicked the bottom of the door). My problem here is that both of them will talk to me about the other, yet neither of them will talk to each other about it because neither of them wants to hear what the other thinks is wrong (at least that's what Ive gathered from the discussions Ive had) Yet, whenever I tell either one that he/she needs to discuss this with his/her opposite, they always say that the other never listens. Is there anything I can tell either of them that might help this situation? Any and all help is welcome.
YogsVR4
07-20-2003, 09:51 PM
Doesn't sound like you need to do anything. If the relationship keeps falling apart at the rate you describe - they will break up on their own. At this point I wouldn't stick my nose in. They could both get mad at you and you'll end up alienating them both. Give it more time.
carnut
07-21-2003, 01:36 AM
I agree, stay out of it. You'll be the punching bag from both sides if you stick your nose in their business.
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