What does she mean? ( girls advice needed)

Ok well back in september i "broke" up with my lady. Well i only did it to test her to see if she really loved me and she did. Anyways i dont really wanna talk about it but all i know is that i made a stupid ass mistake and i regret it BIG TIME. Well after that we started to talk as "friends" till november when i found out she was talkin to some other guy. Anyways i confronted her about it and decided to part ways cause i was hurt and i felt like she led me on. Anyways since then we only talked like 4 times. Well time goes by and all of the sudden i get 3 emails by her in march sayin happy b-day and see how my family is doin and stuff. I was surprised since we havent talked since beginning of january. So anyways i decided to call her up like 3 weeks ago and nothin really happen but yeh we're just catching up on things ...the usual. Anyways i felt good. My friend called her up without me knowing and asked her if theres a chance of us getting back together...she said yes theres a big chance but rite now shes in a relationship. From what i heard she didn't sound to happy about her current bf. I mean my friend could be wrong and misjudging about that part but anyways what does she mean theres a big chance??? I mean that only confused me more. Any of you girls know what she ment by sayin that? Should i take it as a good news or what? Thanks:frown:

Sorry, I'm not a girl, but my girl and I broke up last August and I hardly ever talk to her either. I wish everyday she would come back, or at least if I heard news like you did, that would be great. But to me it sounds like she still likes you, but you have to be the one to make a move. Since you tested her, here's your test. Do you really love her? If so, you better go get her and not wait for her to make a move, cuz you never know what she could do next. Take it slow and just kinda get back into things slowly, let her know exactly how you feel about her. The only thing I stress is DON'T GO OVERBOARD. She doesn't want you to stalk her or nothing, just show her that you are always there for her, whether together or not. Good luck, and again, Sorry I'm not a girl.

Yo man thanks.That was pretty deep and i like that advice! Yeh i'm not gonna stalk her lol! Maybe you're right maybe shes testing me. I might just end up callin her once a week.:smile: thanks

There you go, start off slowly and work your way forward. Just kinda slip it in there every once and a while, but not too much. And the number one thing to remember, she wants to hear good things about her. TRUST ME, it's what most girls would like to hear from their b/f.

All i have to say is go for it. My boyfriend and i broke up a year ago and i felt like crap the whole year. then we started talking again...and things became nice again.....

If i ever said "yes, theres a big change we would get back together," i would mean that i want to be with you.

You obviously love her because you came here to ask about it, and you said you have been kicking your self in the ass ever since you broke up. I'd call her right now and say "yo, i still have feelings for you...." and go from there. If she isnt happy with her current boyfriend..then now's your chance to show her that YOU will make her happy.

like me and my man...if i never said that i still loved him, i am sure he and i would have never gotten back together. and i'd strill be feelin like crap.....

So go call her right now! :)

Awwww! :crying:

Yeh i called her twice last nite but she didn't pick up? I dont know ...i'll just wait next week then i'll try again.:smile:

alright this is what you do. not to be mean or anything but if she sees you waiting around on her she is going to think you are weak, thats a BIG turn off. you need to start dating and try to get on with your life. if she loves you as much as she says she does she would be with you right now and would have dumped the other guy especially if shes not happy. not saying this will be easy but you have to move on. if it was meant to be then you guys will be together. until then just make yourself happy and live your life to the fullest there are other fish in the sea!!!!!

sorry i like to be real even if it hurts!!!

Oh i'm not waiting for her.I've been on 5 dates already:) I just want to talk to her lil by lil and see what goes on from there. She also emailed me twice and it sounded pretty good.

just try no to be nieve about this.


listen to the friends that know the both of you personally GREAT ADVICE!!

i dont know about where you live but im from florida and i moved to north carolina (still wondering why) and i know most of the girls here are shady as f***!!

Originally posted by dnyflyby


listen to the friends that know the both of you personally GREAT ADVICE!!




Yeh i know thats who i usually ask. Cause they know her very well as much as they know me:smile:

for some reason my girl kinda didnt like me, and didnt hang around me often, and then we started talking about sex, and now she never leaves me, and wants me to get in her bedroom, and guys would say, GO FOR IT, but i wanted to know what a girl thinks about this, any gurls have any info for me?:bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi :bananasmi

my honda is my women, and she is ALWAYS in the mood... haha but seriously call her up ask her to cofee, stop beatin round the bush and tell her how u feel!

Don u watch the movies?! youll end up driving off in ure car together into the sunset, and if it doesnt work out that way, then get over her and find someone else! :bigthumb:

Originally posted by PreludeMOFO
my honda is my women, and she is ALWAYS in the mood... haha but seriously call her up ask her to cofee, stop beatin round the bush and tell her how u feel!

Don u watch the movies?! youll end up driving off in ure car together into the sunset, and if it doesnt work out that way, then get over her and find someone else! :bigthumb:




I tried callin her 5 times but she never picked up. Its not like i call her everyday. ITs like atleast 2 times a month or so. She did email me a couple of times. I just didnt reply her last one which was 3 weeks ago...

I tried callin her 5 times but she never picked up. Its not like i call her everyday. ITs like atleast 2 times a month or so. She did email me a couple of times. I just didnt reply her last one which was 3 weeks ago...


Hmmmmm she is the tricky one.... ok do u got her adress? send her a love letter with some chocolates... real suave like!

Originally posted by PreludeMOFO



Hmmmmm she is the tricky one.... ok do u got her adress? send her a love letter with some chocolates... real suave like!


I dont know about that man. Shes got a bf and its been so long you know?

Originally posted by dnyflyby
alright this is what you do. not to be mean or anything but if she sees you waiting around on her she is going to think you are weak, thats a BIG turn off. you need to start dating and try to get on with your life. if she loves you as much as she says she does she would be with you right now and would have dumped the other guy especially if shes not happy. not saying this will be easy but you have to move on. if it was meant to be then you guys will be together. until then just make yourself happy and live your life to the fullest there are other fish in the sea!!!!!

sorry i like to be real even if it hurts!!!

:iagree: with dnyflyby...dont think too much bout the chance you will have that same moment you once had and thinking it's gonna be the same....from experience...i've been through an on-n-off relationship and it stinks but you should'nt wait too long for her while she runs around playin or testin your feelings...if you do get back with her...great....but for sure its gonna be different...better for sum or even worst cause it was neva meant to be

from what you wrote i gather you played some type of game w/ her. whatever happened it seems to have pushed her away-the reason she started to see someone else. she must had some doubt about the relationship after the incedent. she still prolly has some doubt.

my lesson is.....dont play games w/ the ones you really love. reason is you end up hurting them and it will turn on you. if you felt there was an issue or in the future feel there are issues, be straight up about them. dont play mind games because it will prolly backfire on you.

you dont have to test the other person to see if they really love you, a relationship itself is a daily test. so just go w/ the flow of things, offer your attention, love and support through the relationship. work on communication and if you are a match then things will fall into place and you wont have to TEST them to see if it's REAL. you will know it is by following these few simple rules.


i like to give relationship advice. so ask away!!!!!


here is what i think you should do now. tell her how you feel about her. tell her you are interested in getting back together (thats if thats what you really want). by doing this you put the ball in her court. after having said all that to her and she doesnt come back to you in a matter of time, then you two should just remain friends.

i say the best relationships are built off friendships. you also need to put friendships first

here are a couple quotes i would like to share.
it is better to ask and risk embarrassment than to continue w/ false assumptions.
never let issues separate you from the feelings that you have for your partner
you need honesty to have trust, trust to have friendship, and friendship to enjoy a lasting relationship.
the fire of true friendship remains long after the spark of romantic love.

from what you wrote i gather you played some type of game w/ her. whatever happened it seems to have pushed her away-the reason she started to see someone else. she must had some doubt about the relationship after the incedent. she still prolly has some doubt.

my lesson is.....dont play games w/ the ones you really love. reason is you end up hurting them and it will turn on you. if you felt there was an issue or in the future feel there are issues, be straight up about them. dont play mind games because it will prolly backfire on you.

you dont have to test the other person to see if they really love you, a relationship itself is a daily test. so just go w/ the flow of things, offer your attention, love and support through the relationship. work on communication and if you are a match then things will fall into place and you wont have to TEST them to see if it's REAL. you will know it is by following these few simple rules.


i like to give relationship advice. so ask away!!!!!


here is what i think you should do now. tell her how you feel about her. tell her you are interested in getting back together (thats if thats what you really want). by doing this you put the ball in her court. after having said all that to her and she doesnt come back to you in a matter of time, then you two should just remain friends.

i say the best relationships are built off friendships. you also need to put friendships first

here are a couple quotes i would like to share.
it is better to ask and risk embarrassment than to continue w/ false assumptions.
never let issues separate you from the feelings that you have for your partner
you need honesty to have trust, trust to have friendship, and friendship to enjoy a lasting relationship.
the fire of true friendship remains long after the spark of romantic love.


Hey thanks alot i really appreciate your help! Yeh i was playin mind games with her and i do regret it so much. Right now i'm tryin to start a friendship with her then work my way up. Suprisingly she emailed me tonite and it was good email. She wanted to know how my family is doin and all that stuff. It seems like she wants to keep in touch but then whenver i call her she never picks up. She does reply my emails though. I dont know if shes doin it to be nice but either its nice to hear from her again. I'm not forgetting about her but i did moved on and i'm tryin to concentrate on my future. I'd still take her back though. She've put up alot with me i was so stupid. Well this is a lesson learn and i'm gonnna treat her alot more better and more respect. I know for sure she deserves better but i'm willing to change for her. I just dont think its the right time to tell her how i feel right now. Like i said earlier that i want to build up a friendship so that way she knows that shes still important to me. I'll definately come to you for advice! Thank you so much hotgirlzracin! :biggrin:

Okay I may not be a girl or anything...and I will get F**kd for this because it may be considered piggish....but dude, are you forgetting the Code?? She has a boyfriend, like someone else there said...You can't do crap because even though you don't know him, that's a disrespect to him and if you were in his situation would you want it done to you? I mean tell her you have feelings with her, but make it clear to her if there's ever going to be anything between the two of you, she has to break up with him and get back together with you, otherwise the only thing you can be with her is friends. Lemme recap...SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND....her e-mails, etc. don't mean diddly until SHE HAS NO BOYFRIEND...I mean I agree with everyone send her an e-mail and lay it all out on the table for her, no mind games, be completely clear with her...then the ball is in her court my man and as hard as it is...your going to have to wait it out for her answer if you think she's worth it u know?? U two have history together, that can't be ignored...