What is your definition of LOVE?

NSX-R-SSJ20K · 05-13-2002, 01:18 AM

What do you consider love? ever fallen in love? ever met someone and instantly feel something towards them?

wickedG20 · 05-13-2002, 02:20 AM

love Pronunciation Key (lv)
n.
A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.

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darkness · 05-13-2002, 04:15 PM

LOVE is a myth propogated by the instinctual need to procreate.

Never been in love, so have no idea what it is.

JD@af · 05-14-2002, 06:43 PM

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Originally posted by darkness
LOVE is a myth propogated by the instinctual need to procreate.

Never been in love, so have no idea what it is.

I kind of agree with this, darkness. The term I usually use to describe love is "a fucking carrot." Like something they dangle in front of you and taunt you with, but that seemingly you will never ever reach. I ask myself quite frequently whether or not I've ever been in love. I've been in long, meaningful relationships, in which I have cared deeply about the other person. At times, yes, I would have said (at the time) that I was in love. However, I have had love desribed as this feeling that will not be mistaken or doubted, so that "you'll know when it hits you." In this regard, I certainly have not been.

Besides that, thinking about it from the perspective of a strong-willed, independent bachelor, I am uneasy about the fundamentals of the very notion of love. Complete trust, sharing, etc. - which equals co-dependency and vulnerability in my book. I suppose that in thought this could be a beautiful state of being, but it hardly seems practical. Some day I'll actually be in love, and then perhaps it will be time to revisit my definition and experience a change in this attitude.

Spec2 Girl · 05-14-2002, 07:02 PM

For me love is when you look at that person and your heart skips a beat. It’s also when you know if something happened to that person you don’t know what you would do without them.

Whilst I’m not so sure about love at first sight (more like lust), I do know that I wanted to marry my husband after going out with him for only 6 weeks. We have now been married for over 6 years and have been together for over 8 years.

darkness · 05-14-2002, 08:11 PM

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Originally posted by JD@af
Besides that, thinking about it from the perspective of a strong-willed, independent bachelor, I am uneasy about the fundamentals of the very notion of love. Complete trust, sharing, etc. - which equals co-dependency and vulnerability in my book. I suppose that in thought this could be a beautiful state of being, but it hardly seems practical. Some day I'll actually be in love, and then perhaps it will be time to revisit my definition and experience a change in this attitude.

I do agree with your post JD. Though I've only ever been in one serious relationship so I probably have no idea what I'm talking about.

But I was hurt pretty badly and to be honest I am very scared about entering another relationship. I want to be able to handle things on my own and not rely on anyone else.

I agree that my mind will probably change when I meet the right person but I don't know if I am suited to a realtionship. I've been single too long and probably a bit too screwed up in the head.

And Spec2 I am a little envious of you but you and Moon are my friends. You are perfect together and I wouldn't want it any other way.

Spec2 Girl · 05-14-2002, 08:18 PM

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Originally posted by darkness
But I was hurt pretty badly and to be honest I am very scared about entering another relationship. I want to be able to handle things on my own and not rely on anyone else.

I agree that my mind will probably change when I meet the right person but I don't know if I am suited to a realtionship. I've been single too long and probably a bit too screwed up in the head.

And Spec2 I am a little envious of you but you and Moon are my friends. You are perfect together and I wouldn't want it any other way.

You are a really sweet person (like it or not

) and you will meet someone and you will be able to have a normal relationship with them. It always comes when you least expect it. Hang in there, the right person will turn up and you will know it when it happens. I was hurt in a previous relationship and I still managed to find Moondog and be happier than I ever thought possible. As much as it seems hard right now, and that you won't ever find someone or be able to have a relationship again, you will when the time is right.

gdalton · 05-15-2002, 10:59 AM

Love is when you put someone elses wants and needs above your own.

Pikachoo · 05-16-2002, 03:26 PM

Love is undefinable, I don't care whan Webster says. I think love is different for every person, and therefore can't be categorized into some stereotypical medium. Love to me is being so caught up in the other persons emotions and feelings that you lose all meaning for "yourself".
Co-dependent... definately.
Vulnerability... you bet your ass.

But that is the price you pay to have that void filled. I don't care what you say, but until you fall in love there is a gap in your life. Before Leah sure I had tons of friends, I still do. But once you've been in love you recognise a new meaning to life. And it feels wonderful. I don't support the idea of "love at first sight". That idea was created by Hollywood so that they could make a 2 hr movie about people falling in love. Love takes longer than that. And for me, love never really hit me, it just kind of crept up on me. I have asked myself 1000 times if I am really in love. It kind of takes getting used to.
But for all of you guys and gals out there who are looking for a definition of love so that you will know when it happens....don't worry about it so much. It's gonna happen. And don't fall for that "theres one special person out there for you" crap. I believe that there are more than one perfect matches out there. But they have to be found and made.

Besides all that, the great thing about being in love is that when you post something as mushy as all of the above you can blame it on love. lol

taranaki · 05-25-2002, 05:06 AM

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It’s also when you know if something happened to that person you don’t know what you would do without them.

That's a pretty good measure.I have been very lucky so far.....outside of my family I have only ever loved 2 people......One of whom I married 15 years ago,and the other who was a guy......yes,it is important to remember that you can love somebody without having a sexual relationship with them.

Ssom · 05-25-2002, 07:21 AM

I have never experienced love, as a matter of fact I have only ever been in two relationships whih lasted 2 and 6 weeks respectivley. Even if I do experience it I will never show it, beause I'm just not very open to others about how I feel............

JD@af · 05-25-2002, 11:52 AM

Been meaning to revisit this thread. I had a long talk with one of my best friends.. about a week and a half ago now. He kind of opened my eyes to love from a new perspective that I had never really pictured before. You see, he told me that love is like a disease of the mind. Being in love is a form of "madness," one which causes you to think and act in ways that you wouldn't normally. And he reinforced that it is very benefitial to you, health-wise, as your body releases endorphins, your heart rate is relaxed, etc. The benefits go on and on. Surprisingly, I was actually sold on it

AEstud · 05-28-2002, 11:26 AM

there is the idea of love and the evidence of love but, no love. Love is hardly a feeling but it is shown through action.

tazdev · 05-29-2002, 06:26 AM

I believe that love is a two way thing. Have I experienced it?

no that was LUST

taranaki · 05-29-2002, 07:03 AM

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Originally posted by tazdev
I believe that love is a two way thing. Have I experienced it?
no that was LUST

Love and lust are two entirely different creatures in my opinion.Lust is little more than an instinctive craving for self-satisfaction,love on the other hand is an urge to fullfill the emotional needs of the other person.For love to be a satisfying experience,it must be seen as appreciated.Lust is a far simpler emotion to satisfy,provided you have the means to achieve the end.

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