well i cant really help you with all of your problems but i can help you with the last one. The wire you unplugged goes into your oxygen sensor, the reason you car is now running rough is because without the sensor, the computer is becoming confused about how much gas/air should be in the combustion mixture, so yeah that was a bad idea, Your service engin light didnt come on when it was unplugged? you should be able to simply plug it back in and it should work fine. and these are not nissan, almost every newer car has them, mine has 2 and both are bad

lol. but that should help if not just post again. sry i cant help you with your other problems!