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01-22-2002, 01:45 PM | #1 | |
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Loving your Family
Do you believe that it is inherent in our nature to love our parents and family members? Do you think we have a choice? Ultimately, through our lives we love many people. In a romantic love, however, we fall in and out of love (hopefully more in than out), through the choices we make, or through the circumstances we find ourselves in. However, when we are born, it is automatically assumed and expected that we will love our parents and family members. Do you think this is true? Do we grow to love them as we grow to love others, or are we automatically born to love them?
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we are born to love them. of course, like everything else, its very circumstancial. you could have been given up for adoption, or what have you. but i think the reason why we are born to love them is because they raised us. and this is hypothetical, assuming that your actual parents raised you, or your foster parents raised you. i love my parents because of what they have done for me, as im sure most people feel the same way. what they've given me, the ways they've stuck up for me, thats why i love them. they've always been there, as i will do for them.
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It's a hormone.
oxytocin :smoker2: |
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01-22-2002, 07:41 PM | #4 | ||
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Try this link Now Fritz how do you think a Hormone that causes contractions is responsible for creating an instinct to love your family? I think its nothing more than learned behaviuor.
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It took a while, but I have grown to love my family.Sadly,disfunctional is probably a good term to describe the interpersonal relationships in our house when I lived at home .The day-to-day regime of living with insecure and authoritarian parents effectively suppressed any mutal empathy.
We are born with the instinct to love our families.It is further reinforced into us as small children by our parents when they feed us.In my generation,this mainly applies to one's mother,but it would be interesting to see what sort of relationship develops in the case where a father was the dominant carer.It is possible to override this feeling if it is not the main emotion being nurtured.Like a good garden,emotions need to be weeded regularly,to prevent your desired thoughts from being smothered. In families,as with any other relationship,you don't always immediately get out what you put in.In the case of domestic violence,for example, it is possible to hate someone that you love,and forgive them at the same time.In the end though, the dominant emotion will always win.Much as I hated my father as a teenager,these days he lives on the other side of the planet and I seldom get to see him,so there is less friction between us.In the absence of any reason to hate him,I find that I can love him much more easily. |
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Oxytocin has also been shown to be the only known 'monogamy' hormone. Mammals that bond for life with a partner have increased levels of oxytocin; if it's then chemically blocked, they no longer remain monogamous. Quote:
Of course, it's not the only component to love, but it might just be a lot larger part of it than most people think. :smoker2: |
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SO you dont believe in any non-physical bond holding a family together? or what about other reasons, like learned behaviour?
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If it is learned behavior, why is it that we never question the love we have for our parents? I could ask almost anyone if they love their mother or father, and without a doubt, they will automatically respond positively. I agree that is a learned behavior, built on dependency and the required trust of infancy, but once we emerge into an age where we can control our thoughts, behaviors, and challenge any learned behaviors (and yes, I do realize we all challenge our parents when we're older, some more than others), we will still continue loving our parents till the day we die. I'm just curious, we will easily question the love we have for another in a relationship beyond familial, why don't we question the learned love we have for our family?
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Not for nothing - If your parents are still alive, you've probably spent more of your life with them than any other single person on earth. :smoker2: |
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They have learnt from this that it is not acceptable to express their negative feelings in public,but positive expressions bring immediate rewards.There comes a point where they will instinctively follow the desired pattern,and they will continue along that path until they are teenagers,when they will become independent enough to voice their angry thoughts to their peers. However,by that time the original message will have been drilled into them many times by relatives,teachers,friends' parents etc,and their instinctive response to adults will be completely different,i.e. the'correct'answer.The more they repeat the 'correct ' answer,the more they will tend to believe it. It is still considered a serious breach of manners to openly display negative feelings towards your parents,whatever your age may be. |
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