When you turn your key to "on", does the ABS light come on for three seconds and go out?
If yes, after you start the car, is the ABS light on?
Do you know what an ABS stop feels like? Drive your car on an off ramp or on ramp....with no cars around safely stop with one side of your wheels on the hard top, and the other side on dirt/grass....apply brakes safely, and do you feel a pulsation in the brake pedal and a sound from the ABS pump?
If you have Traction Control(there will be a symbol in your dash when you turn the key to "on"), at a dead stop have one front wheel on dry pavement and the other front wheel on water or dirt......with no one around, safely accelerate hard.....you should hear the ABS system apply as one wheel slips during acceleration....