did a little bit more inspection on the car and found something that might be causing the problems... i found one of the tranny mounts to be fudged. the bare bolt is basically got a good 2+ inches of free movement in what is suppose to be a rubber filled hole lol. so needless to say im getting that fixed. could explain why the tranny needed rebuilt before i bought the car. don't see why it was spotted when the tranny was rebuilt. its one heck of a mess. hopefully that will fix the issue. will post an update once i fix it