I just got off IMing with my friend and the main topic was sex. We said we would try to be virgins until marriage. She has failed miserably! Now I'm going to go on and wait till marriage, but how many of the AFer's haven't done it, is waiting, going to anyhow, has, etc.? Just a thought....

Also, does it bother you if a date/whatever ask if you are or aren't?

I have - and wish I hadn't. Won't again before marriage.

I didn’t wait for marriage. I was in a long-term relationship at the time (it lasted 4 years) and neither of us wanted to wait any longer (we had been together for 6 months). I think if you love someone there’s nothing wrong with not waiting for marriage. Who knows, it could be the person you end up marrying anyway.

Also, to answer your other question, no it wouldn’t bother me at all. As Moppie said, I like to know my partners history and I’m sure it’s the same for them too or they wouldn’t be asking.

Originally posted by Damien


Also, does it bother you if a date/whatever ask if you are or aren't?



Quite the opposite.
I want to know my partners sexual history (or at least a summury) before I sleep with them. Then you can be more prepared for what is likely to make it more fun for them, and for your self.

I like to know if they have or haven't, want to or don't.(If they haven't it might actually make me look good:D)

but it won't change my opinion or feelings. These days sex doesn't matter so much.

I'm with spec on this one. Doesn't matter as long as it's a committed relationship.

I wouldn't mind if someone asked, I don't really care, and if it matters that much to them, they're better off knowing.

I didn't wait, and I mostly don't regret it... But there are those days when...

I used to take offense when people asked me what my sexual history was, but that was before I had any. I always felt like they knew and wanted to make fun of me for it. Now, my friends and I are open with that general topic and it doesn't bother me so much.

If anyone were to ask me my history,it would be a very short story indeed.Boring old fart that I am,I married my first love,and the means,motive and opportunity to stray have never occurred simoultaneously since.

Didn't bother waiting. I never really asked them, but sometimes they come out and tell me.:D

Originally posted by Moppie
Quite the opposite.
I want to know my partners sexual history (or at least a summury) before I sleep with them. Then you can be more prepared for what is likely to make it more fun for them, and for your self.

exactly, but to the same affect, I am still waiting, havent yet *suprisingly*

Have fooled around but not full on piston jaming

Although its getting extremly hard to wait, especally sence i'm engaged...and we have the want, the oppertnity just never seems to come up though

I wont regret if she and I do, even if we dont get married, because I truly love her.

Didn't wait. Wouldn't have changed a thing.

Haven't yet, aren't going to wait.


However I won't lower myself to doing it with sluts, I'd wait a few weeks before doing such a thing ;) :alien2:


Is it normal to be 16 3/4 with 4 short-term relationships and never done it????:confused:

Originally posted by Moss1O6GTi
Haven't yet, aren't going to wait.


However I won't lower myself to doing it with sluts, I'd wait a few weeks before doing such a thing ;) :alien2:


Is it normal to be 16 3/4 with 4 short-term relationships and never done it????:confused:

I'm not even goin to answer that! :rolleyes:

Well, I will! My cousins were parents at 15 if that helps?

My parents rented to a lady who had 4 kids at 19. The oldest was 5 years old. There's nothing wrong with being a 16 yr old virgin, or even a 25 yr old virgin. What's sad is the 37 yr old that I work with.

Yeah, like Jimmy could really wait :rolleyes: :finger:

Originally posted by boingo82
What's sad is the 37 yr old that I work with.

How is that sad??? :confused:

4 people have voted that they have or are waiting till marriage! Unless the guy has never even been kissed, then how is that sad? Even that last thing I said wouldn't be sad!

Originally posted by Moss1O6GTi

Is it normal to be 16 3/4 with 4 short-term relationships and never done it????:confused:

maybe some of the younger members could answer this,but hell,it's impressive!Remember -you only get one crack at your first time(no pun intended)and if you have decided to wait for the right person,it's a strength,not a failure.

stick to the plan ,buddy,as with cars,the fewer owners you've had,the better the resale.

me still waitin..:crying:




..haven't found right person...:rolleyes:.....and I'm on the other side of 25......:( :(

Originally posted by ragt20
me still waitin..:crying:




..haven't found right person...:rolleyes:.....and I'm on the other side of 25......:( :(

:confused::confused::confused::confused:What's the big deal:confused::confused::confused::confused:

Does it actually affect people that much if they haven't had sex? Do you look down on those who haven't and think you aren't something if you, yourself haven't?

Iwas 23 before I bothered with it......I just didn't see it as a big deal at the time,drag racing was much more fun than hanging around with women.;)

Originally posted by Damien


:confused::confused::confused::confused:What's the big deal:confused::confused::confused::confused:

Does it actually affect people that much if they haven't had sex? Do you look down on those who haven't and think you aren't something if you, yourself haven't?

hey I don't have problem wiv it..........:D :p

maybe the way I posted :confused: ya :D

Originally posted by taranaki
Iwas 23 before I bothered with it......I just didn't see it as a big deal at the time,drag racing was much more fun than hanging around with women.;)

my thoughts exactly........ok maybe not drag racing.......but rest yeah...:D

Originally posted by ragt20


hey I don't have problem wiv it..........:D :p

maybe the way I posted :confused: ya :D

Ya! The :cry: a threw me off!

:rolleyes:

Some people I think though look at it as that though :(

Originally posted by Damien


How is that sad??? :confused:

4 people have voted that they have or are waiting till marriage! Unless the guy has never even been kissed, then how is that sad? Even that last thing I said wouldn't be sad!

Because he looks 60 and does want to have a girlfriend but things aren't working out. He is one of those people who's so nice it's annoying. So it's not sad-pitiful, it really is sad. I do feel bad for him 'cause he is a nice guy.

Originally posted by Damien


Ya! The :cry: a threw me off!

:rolleyes:

Some people I think though look at it as that though :(


:cry: was only added for sarcastic humour value........:D

Originally posted by ragt20



:cry: was only added for sarcastic humour value........:D

Very well than! I figured that out l8er anyhow!

I wished Spec2 and boingo added those poll options though that they mentioned.

Originally posted by taranaki


maybe some of the younger members could answer this,but hell,it's impressive!Remember -you only get one crack at your first time(no pun intended)and if you have decided to wait for the right person,it's a strength,not a failure.

stick to the plan ,buddy,as with cars,the fewer owners you've had,the better the resale.

Cheers mate :)

Makes me feel heaps better :D :D :D :D

Originally posted by Damien
I wished Spec2 and boingo added those poll options though that they mentioned. I've added my one for you. :)

Originally posted by Moss1O6GTi
Is it normal to be 16 3/4 with 4 short-term relationships and never done it????:confused:

Normal????? :confused: Define "Normal" plz :)

Whatever is right for you, is ok. Dont rush it.

Im 20, I havent done it, nor have I been in any relationships, short-term or long-term.

I dont date because it is diffucult to find a date when your face looks like a tossed salad that has sat out in the sun for a few days. My lack of wit and humor dont help either.

Does it bother me? Not really. Personally I believe there is someone out there for everyone. I am not searching for that person. Sure at times, I feel dissapointed, and/or lonely. I have goals set out and I am following them. If my path crosses with someone elses down the road somewhere, then all the better.

Enjoy the hand life deals you :)



(Sorry for dragging thread off-topic)

Originally posted by HuMMerMan
Does it bother me? Not really. Personally I believe there is someone out there for everyone. I am not searching for that person. Sure at times, I feel dissapointed, and/or lonely. I have goals set out and I am following them. If my path crosses with someone elses down the road somewhere, then all the better.


You hit it right on the head Hummer.

Hell I'm 53, what did you expect? Sex should be the ultimate expression of love for an individual. I was married once, sex was not our problem, but everything else was, therefore love doesn't make the world go round!

haven't yet but wont necessarily wait.

Will keep searching for Miss Right not Miss Rightnow.



but as said by Tom Petty "The waiting is the hardest part"

Originally posted by tazdev
haven't yet but wont necessarily wait.

Will keep searching for Miss Right not Miss Rightnow.



but as said by Tom Petty "The waiting is the hardest part"

But it's not so bad if you have good friends:D

Originally posted by darkness


But it's not so bad if you have good friends:D

Amen!!! Friends are the best!!!

Taz- Tom Petty! :ylsuper

:apuke:


just puking through.............

Originally posted by Moppie
:apuke:


just puking through.............


Sounds like someones a little embarassed :finger: :finger: :finger:






j/k:D








I hope :uhoh:

Originally posted by darkness


But it's not so bad if you have good friends:D


:frog: :D :frog: