i have seen a bunch of "special edition", accords tegs etc with the special edition badge on em, other then different rims, what else is different, what makes it so "special"?

apperently nothing, as noone has responded:(

Well I've no idea about that particlular car but the dealers usually whack a few extras on a model which is being phased out, stick a "special edition" sticker on it and try selling it off before the new stock comes in.
So what are these extras then? Like you said, alloys for a start. You can also get different combinations of the following depending what came stock on the original model: e/s/r, e/w, c/l, airbags, spoiler, floormats, maybe front lips, foglights etc.
If you want to know about a specific car/model then you're best bet is to ask in the appropriate forum.

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Dealer groups (watch the local car ads and see what "dealer group" sponsors the ad..."Northeast Honda Dealers," "Tri-state Honda Dealers," etc.) and, sometimes, the manufacturer will put a group of options together, tag it with a "limited edition", "special edition", or "Joe Namath Edition" badge...and get rid of the last of a model run. It happens all the time. Sometimes, the dealer or dealer group will put out a special edition just to move a slow-selling model. These sort of "special editions" are typically not more valuable or desired. It's just another way to get rid of cars.

ive only seen red 'special edition' 5th gen accords

They only come out with them once/twice a generation.