04 ion wont start

I have an 04 Ion and it is not starting. I think I located the problem. The "ECM Cont." relay number 31 under the hood at the eps is not working. I changed it with no luck. I checked a number of things including every fuse by a dmm continuity test and pulled them all out and visually verified. all test fine. the issue i think is the ecm cont relay does not trigger, if i jump pins 87 and 30 with the key in the ignition in the on position it starts and runs fine. so i checked and found the triggers come from the clutch in the car which appears to send +12v to trigger the relay. that seems fine. the other trigger appears to come from the starter coil relay and is yellow coming from the ecm pin 66 i think. how can i fix this ecm wire issue?????????
I attached the circuit diagram ive been using to try and track down the problem

please help!!!!!! thanks so much guys

Does this happen all the time or just since it got below 20 deg. outside?

Deny